You have crossed paths with vulvar pain.
This unbearable pain has been destroying your life for months or even years. You’ve unsuccessfully tried rounds of all kinds of meds. Doctors can’t seem to help you. You have been informed that “It’s all in your head.” You have hopelessly googled your ass off for solutions. Your relationships sink. You career suffers. Outsiders comment that you look normal. But inside you feel broken, scared and alone. You want to shout and cry out loud.
If you have ever wondered whether your life can ever be normal again, please remember:
YOU AREN’T ALONE.
THERE IS HOPE.
AND YOU ARE IN THE RIGHT PLACE.
Welcome to Me + My V
This website is a place full of knowledge, support, and love for YOU — a beautiful woman who suffers from Vulvodynia.
This place was created to:
1. PROVIDE YOU WITH TOOLS AND INFORMATION TO CONQUER VULVODYNIA
Yes, there is still not enough useful information about vulvar pain and the available treatments. Solutions offered by Western Medicine are often repetitive and in most cases, they aren’t even successful.
On Me + My V, you will find diverse, holistic and multidisciplinary solutions for your body and mind, rooted in the mind-body connection philosophy, that will help you to free yourself from Vulvodynia. You will get exposed to new information that will help you build your firm, new foundation of knowledge on which you will be able to create your life-saving solutions.
2. SPREAD AWARENESS ABOUT VULVODYNIA
Women’s sexuality and the well-being of women’s sexual organs are still taboo in 2018. But now, it’s finally time to speak up and overcome the shame associated with one of the core pillars of the female experience — sexuality.
Living with invisible chronic vulvar pain is not less real or respectful that living with invisible chronic headaches. They are both serious health problems and they must be treated accordingly with appropriate respect.
To explain the essence of Me + My V, here is a list of Q&A’s that I have built up from my chats with readers.
My name is Agnieszka (Aga for short) and I suffered from Vulvodynia for almost half of my life (16 long years). After years of unsuccessful medical attempts, I turned to holistic medicine for help. And I invested in self-learning. After gathering knowledge from different sources I ultimately developed the approach that helped me to heal from Vulvodynia. I would like to share with you what I know.
No. This is simply impossible. As you will see in my blog, there are too many factors that can play a role in this condition to be able to exactly extract a single set and apply it to all different women. There are, however, 3 fixed components to this solution: your body, your mind and their relation to each other. Within these 3 components, there are plenty of different remedies. Which one or which mix of them will work best for you — is an individual matter. Your journey is to find this out.
No. If you’re looking for a quick fix or a magical pill, you will not find it here. However, if you want to develop long-lasting and successful solutions that can help you in conquering your pain and reclaiming your life, then this is definitely the place for you. Healing yourself from Vulvodynia using the mind-body connection philosophy, and holistic mind and body solutions, can be a time-consuming process which might sound discouraging — but it does not have to be! With all of these new tools, you can regain your irreversible power over your health and well-being. And it is worth it — believe me.
In the eyes of the mind-body connection philosophy, your body and your mind are one. Unlike in the Western Medicine approach which tends to teach us that these two entities are separated and can’t influence each other. Your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and attitudes can affect your body’s biological functions — in positive or negative ways. Think about upcoming work presentations — and your digestive problems. Or seeing this handsome guy next door — and butterflies in your tummy. In other words, your mind’s mental state can affect your body’s physical health. Likewise, your body’s physical health can affect your mind’s mental state.
The mind-body connection is not a new concept. Until approximately the 17th century, almost every medical system in the world treated the mind and body as a whole. Then our Western world started drastically separating these entities. But even Western medicine today has already started to gradually change its approach. Sooner or later, we will see the mind-body connection philosophy being fully honored and respected again.
Based on my personal experience and other women that I have had the honour to meet, I’ve discovered that the mind-body connection approach is the only approach that gives true, long-term and lasting results.
No. Medications might be used as a short-term solution to give you some needed time when your pain is unbearable — to find a real solution. But from my experience and other women that I have spoken with, medications alone are neither final, long-term nor successful solutions for Vulvodynia. There are also enough resources online already talking about different kinds of oral and topical drugs that can be used for Vulvodynia. Plus, almost every medical doctor out there prescribes some form of medicine. In most cases, without success. I do believe that there is a need for a place that looks at this condition from a different angle.
No. Usually, when this expression is used (towards you — a woman who suffers from invisible vulvar pain), the main goal is to diminish the importance of your pain. To tell you that your pain is essentially made up. Fake. The intentions behind it lack respect to you and your condition. This can be influenced by the fact that you are a woman. And in the eyes of the person saying it, maybe even a neurotic and hypochondriac one.
And this is a problem.
Because of this baggage surrounding mental health (and the mental link to body issues), we tend to feel bad, judged or ashamed if our condition might be linked to this “invisible” head connection. However, this connection is not invisible. It is real. It might be invisible to someone who does not know how to measure it because he/she does not have the tools to do so. Nowadays, medical environments — thanks to advanced types of equipment — are able to measure phenomena like brain activity. And they are finally connecting the mental component to our tangible body pains and sensations. In every single case of human pain, there is a mind component to it. This is a normal process that every human experiences. It is time to embrace it instead of being ashamed of it. It is time to start respecting our mind issues in the same way we respect our body problems.
It depends. The words curing and healing are often used interchangeably, but their meanings are different. Curing means the removal or cessation of the symptoms of a disease. Healing means becoming whole on a physical, mental, spiritual and emotional level. It extends way beyond curing. And it is inseparably connected with the mind-body connection. You can be cured without being healed and you can be healed without being cured. In the case of Vulvodynia, curing would mean a removal of burning pain while healing might mean becoming happy and whole with yourself and your life despite still noticeable pain. Some conditions are easily cured like a flu or bone fracture. But most conditions are not. And Vulvodynia is one of them.
This is my hope. I was lucky to get both cured and healed during my journey. I will do my best to share with you everything that I know, in hopes that this knowledge will help you in your personal journey. I can’t assure you about the outcomes. Working with yourself is not a quick fix. It is not a magical pill. It can take time. And how long will depend on many factors. Every single journey is different. However, by opening to the new, often unknown information, you are giving yourself a chance to transform and change your life.
I am so grateful for you to be here and I’m so excited for our journey ahead.
With all my love.